Official Bio:
Mal (she/her) is a certified clinical sexologist, global speaker (TEDx), eroticism philosopher, member of the International Society for Sexual Medicine, and founder and Executive Director of the Center for Erotic Intelligence. With over 10 years experience working with individuals and couples across the spectrum of genders and orientations, she’s become a go to force for transformation, healing, self-actualization and self-love. Her work with couples has garnered her the nickname, relationship revitalizer.
Previously, she served as resident sexologist and advice columnist at the Museum of Sex, where her 2011 research on the internal clitoris went viral, revolutionizing the way clitoris owners understand how their bodies work. As a lecturer on relationships, communication, desire, consumerism, pleasure, and power dynamics, Mal explores how the erotic mind can empower our everyday lives, offering fresh new insights on cultivating erotic intelligence amidst our ever-evolving world of technology and human connection.
Her work has been featured in the NYTimes, Independent, WIRED, Glamour, Mashable, GQ, BILD, Business Insider, Haaretz, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, Marie Claire, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Netflix, & more.
In Her Own Words:
Decades ago, I would joke that I didn’t watch Sex and the City because “I am sex and the city!” I f*cked for sport, because I was bored, because I needed validation, because I was curious about people and the world around me, because I was searching for myself, because I could, because … the reasons are endless. I did it shamelessly, daringly, and thrillingly. I intentionally chose lovers who piqued my interest for myriad reasons other than physical attraction, for exploration and adventure’s sake—all ages, types, cultural backgrounds, genders, professions, passions, & even orientations. It gave me a type of education no amount of professional studies or degrees could. The many connections and interactions I experienced bestowed upon me the profound realization of what we all share as humans: the desire to be desired and loved; our existential dilemmas, loneliness, insecurities, jealousy; the experience of loss, lust, infatuation, drive, pleasure, guilt, indulgence, suffering, chemistry, growth; wanting the best for our families; and navigating the many paradoxes of existence.
We’re all on this journey of life, trying the best we can to figure it all out. The city and my many dalliances evolved me in ways I will likely never be able to fully articulate. Alas, I hope my experiences, shared in response to your questions will help guide you along your path. And I hope through the exchanging of our stories, that together we might inspire and guide fellow readers along theirs.
I am not some almighty holier-than-thou guru whose words are definitive. I’m sure we won’t always agree. Maybe I will take a question or situation out of context at times, because I am so not perfect. But please take what you wish and apply what you like the most in ways that will best serve you. I want nothing but the best for you—your growth, joy, healing, love, and happiness. After all, you deserve it. We all do.
I found my happy ending, or dare I say—happy beginning. I finally found true love. We spent years building a solid foundation, then a fortress of our love. And I finally did the most transgressive thing someone like me could do. I got married. After creating a life and a wildly magical love story together for over a decade, we now share a beautiful child together. We love to travel and indulge in all the pleasures of a live well lived. And while I do love diamonds, he will always be my biggest brightest rock.